So here’s this guy, on Facebook, one of my “friends”. I wouldn’t call him my friend I just met him a few times. But anyway, he started raging today, posted at least ten times and commented on each posts at least ten times again.
In these posts he kinda’ ordered COWARDLY people to delete him from their friendlist because he wants friends not acquaintances. (Putting aside the cowardly part, he’s correct.) There were two comments by him where he asked, I guess I can say us, to delete him from his life and FB. Also, he told that he only needs righteous people. So then, I wondered why won’t he delete people, instead of begging of ignorant people. But that’s just too simple I guess.
In the second post, he asked if he has God complex. Well, no answers again of course. And also, he said if “you” (I don’t don’t know who he talked about again) think so, then say it if you dare or go to hell. Wow, I’m speechless.
And there were other more outrageous and harsher posts throughout the day, when he cursed the incredulous (I don’t really know which English word to use here, since I don’t know who he talks about but it means someone who doesn’t believe so I think I kind of got it right) and that he has his right to believe, I don’t know in what exactly.
Then came the lskjlab uibwbkjb. He “shouted” out again to the worms to delete him. Also, when someone asked if he’s alright, he answered that he has never been better, and he asked for a lancet (yeah, really) to cut out the cancer from humanity! At that point, even I started to question if he’s really alright. I wasn’t really surprised at first because he had a really hard childhood and he has always been labelled as “strange”, just like me. In the end, he stated that “snakes appeared though I’m operating openly for one day” said it in kind of a sarcastic tone. Obviously he needs attention. But being honest, doesn’t need force, I think.
Actually, I can understand that extreme anger he feels right now about people and the world. But I don’t think that this behaviour would do any good to him. Because half of those people who saw these don’t care at all, and the other half may understand it but remain silent since it is pointless to say anything. And it actually turned out that someone called the police and the ambulance as well, which only increased his anger and I’m sure he never stopped for a moment to think that maybe someone is worried about him.
So what is the point of this post?
Firstly, the reason why I usually refrain from speaking my opinion is that it’s a double-edged sword and in my opinion if you cannot use it wisely, then don’t use it at all. And in this case I think he should just do whatever he wants to make his life or even the world better instead of raging on a site where people usually share photos about food, wines and parties and post deep quotes to pics that don’t even relate.
The other thing is that people tend to criticise others for traits they don’t like about themselves. I think this guy does this too and the problem that he’s a very stubborn type so you cannot even explain to him. Also, I posted it here because I’ve met some people here who may understand it. (Un)fortunately, we’re in a society where everyone is “free” to speak their minds via several social media sites, though I’m not sure people who constructed Facebook, could envision that these kind of things would happen just because there is the sentence: What’s on your mind?
So in the end I got really sad. Because I pitied this guy who actually had some points and also because ever since these highly popular social media sites exist people and the world changed into something not necessarily good. We usually chat instead of meeting, we share our opinions and people either ignore us or we’ll become piled up in a bunch of hate mails. Sometimes, we cannot tell our problems to our families or friends, instead, we’re starting a blog where complete strangers may support and encourage us. It is a really good thing, so don’t misunderstand me, I’m really happy I have found WordPress, but at the same time it’s quite sad, isn’t it?
And labels of course. Even if what you say may have some credit you immediately become strange, crazy or whatever.
Iridescent Spirits 
January 17, 2015 at 1:33 am
Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:
Be careful some of these people on social media pull this kind of stuff just to get others to react and fight with them. Otherwise he may be having some kind of mental episode. What I like about WP is you can filter these types out and because most are serious writers the trolls get bored and go home most of the time. There are still those but not as much or as vicious as Facebook can be.
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January 17, 2015 at 1:57 am
It sounds like your “friend” really does need help. What separates knowing someone is giving an opinion and stating how he feels (freedom of speech) and a feeling threatened, abused or a desperate cry for help?
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January 17, 2015 at 7:19 am
Definitely, it is a cry for help. The problem here is that he’s unable to accpet is or even realise that there is something wrong with him. I have to tell this was just a draft I wrote at night and instead of save I clicked on the publish button. 😀 I shouldn’t write drafts at night 😀 I just woke up and could write this more understandable.
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January 18, 2015 at 6:06 am
I hope you will be able to get to the bottom of what is going on and that your friend will get the help he needs 😦
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January 17, 2015 at 5:34 am
Only on a site like Facebook do authorities show up when some kind of crime or disturbance is publicly planned. And this is one ‘disturbed’ individual that needs help…
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January 17, 2015 at 7:21 am
I kind of wait when they will show up, this is not the first time this guy does something like this, he just has never been this harsh. And also, when I see something like this I immediately be frightened not to end up like this.
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January 17, 2015 at 6:00 am
I have several ‘friends’ on Facebook that do this sort of thing you described. They usually do it after something has happened involving one or two people and rather than directly deal with those people – they cry out to everyone on their friend list in the hopes of justifying their outrage at these one or two people who most likely called them out on some bs. It is usually an appeal for attention – with the hopes that those in their friend list will either comment with agreements or with questions asking what is wrong thus showing that they care. It is one of those typical behaviors where someone is testing to see if people really do want to be their friends – they say ‘if you don’t like me then delete me’ thus when no one deletes them, they feel verification that the people in their friend list really do want to be there – despite it being more because people rarely take the time to respond to these ridiculous ‘delete me’ pleas and actually delete someone out of sheer laziness.
The difference between someone crying out for attention in a juvenile way such as this and someone pleading for help are what they say. People who need help usually say things like people will be sorry when they are gone or the world is better off without them or they are going to ‘take out’ those who have hurt them or they are going down fighting and similar statements identifying someone is thinking of suicide or murder.
People who are just seeking attention tend to make angry statements about how they have the right to believe what they want, say what they want, live how they want and anyone who doesn’t agree can go to hell and what not. It is a lot of angry outbursts but no indication of harming oneself or others.
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January 17, 2015 at 7:24 am
I’ve never seen such a serious thing before and I got shocked. I think this is serious, of yourse he seeks attention but this is just too much. You are right, even I didn’t delete him, not because of laziness but I couldn’t decide what to do. I really hope you are right and no one will be harmed. Thank you for commenting! 🙂
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January 17, 2015 at 3:45 pm
Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
Very interesting and true.
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January 22, 2015 at 6:28 pm
Extremely interesting and awesomely written post. You can really see the signs popping out from the behavior of an individual in desperate need of understanding.
I live by the code of “If you got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all” as well and hence, I can totally relate to what you meant about the “double-edge” part.
It is unfortunate that your pal was not exposed to more positive environment / people in his life and had to resort to what he did, in hopes of getting the much needed support in life.
If I actually witnessed something like this happening to someone I know, close or not, I would personally reach out to him/her and talk to them. Usually people who resort to such hostility to solve their issues either hadn’t had the chance to learn the more “appropriate” way to resolve their problems, OR
they simply tried and did everything they could but nothing seem to work so hence, the perception of their world slowly but surely, sliding down into the depressing black hole.
Hopefully someone will be there for him and guide him towards the right direction soon. But in the end, whether he choose to be in “isolation” or actually allow people to reach out to him, is all up to him.
Glad you found WordPress too btw! Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing. This is definitely one of the posts that can be beneficial to A LOT of people 😉
Your pal,
David Long
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January 22, 2015 at 6:43 pm
Thank you for your comment and sharing your opinion. Sure, I had the idea to talk to him but I’m not sure if I could really be any help. Either because sometimes I am the one who needs help and because he’s a headstrong person. Also, seeing this, my panic disorder took the lead fearing that I can become just like him too. Though, I’m still thinking of some solution even though he’s not a close friend of mine.
Also, thanks for the compliment, I think I could understand him because I’ve been through hardships like this. But I have to admit this was supposed to be only a draft and I accidentally hit the publish button instead of saving it. 😀 But there are no coincidences and I noticed that the posts I write in haste or driven by a sudden idea become the most popular. Interesting.
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January 22, 2015 at 6:53 pm
And it is a wise move, in my opinion, that you didn’t attempt to help yet because you are well aware of the risk on how things may turn out worse for both of you and the people around you.
Also, its great that you’re still trying to figure things out as well because if something somilar hsppens again in future, perhaps a close friend or relative this time, you might be able to help!
As for thehastily written posts? Perhaps its the gut instinct talking. If it is? You gotta thank your mom for giving you that damn good gut 😉
Your buddy,
David Long
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January 22, 2015 at 6:56 pm
I’m smiling from ear to ear 😀 and I’m speechless. Spread the love!
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January 25, 2015 at 5:03 pm
As for the guy, he somehow got to a doctor (I dont know about the details) and it turned out that he most likely has bipolar disorder and right now he is in his manic period. Sad and he’s still behaving aggressively but at least he will get the proper helping hand. Or at least I hope so.
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